Love at First Sight – Yes or No
Dear Shelia,
I think I’m in love with a guy I just met. I’m thinking about telling him how I feel but don’t want to ruin our relationship before it really gets started. Before now I didn’t believe in love at first sight. Have you ever experienced it?
Woman from the East Coast
Dear Woman from the East Coast,
I think there’s “lust” at first sight. Love might develop from those lustful feelings eventually, but it’s hard to truly love someone when you don’t know anything about that person; when you don’t know any of their characteristics; when you haven’t had any type of interaction with a person. I’ve seen surveys that both men and women believe there is “love at first sight” and in fact, I asked this question to a few males myself and out of the males asked, 95 percent agreed that “love at first sight” exists.
After reading your question, I tried to recall if I had ever fallen instantly in love. I came up with zilch. Now lust, yes. Just yesterday, I crossed paths with a man with the prettiest smile and could fill out a pair of levi jeans. He was sexy and I was immediately attracted to him, but love, “no.”
I guess you have the answer to the second part of your question. No, I have never met a man who I instantly fell in love with.
Love is hard enough after you get to know a person. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a “hopeful” romantic and would love to meet a man and him and I instantly fall in love like in the movies or some of the romance stories I write. But in reality I don’t see it happening.
In reality, I think there can be an immediate attraction. In reality, I think love can develop from that attraction. In reality, I think when both adults feel the same way about each other,love is a beautiful thing.
One question to ask yourself, would you believe a man if he told you after meeting you a few times that he was in love with you?
Readers, have you ever experienced “love at first sight?”
Thanks for reading today’s question at advice corner. I’m not a relationship expert, just a writer who writes about relationships. Feel free to add on your own opinion.
Poet Marc Lacy was born in Huntsville, Alabama. He is the 2nd child and eldest son born to Walter and Julianne Lacy. After Graduating Alabama A&M University, Lacy worked as an engineer for several corporations and is currently a government contractor. He spent numerous years heavily involved in organizational work and anchoring various community service projects within the North Alabama area. Lacy has been writing poetry for about 17 years; of which he has performed on tour for the past 5.
