Dear Shelia,
My girlfriend told me I wasn’t being sensitive to her needs. I’m a man, so I don’t know what she means. Help!
Sensitive in Maryland
Dear Sensitive in Maryland,
Since you didn’t elaborate more on why your girlfriend would say that, it’s difficult to answer. There could be a number of reasons. Do you find yourself “going through” the motions? Do you really listen to her when she’s talking or is your mind a million miles away because you assume she’s saying the same old thing? Does she need more romance?
It doesn’t make you less of a man to show that you care. Pay more attention to her. Really listen and try to cater to some of her needs.
Thanks for reading today’s question at advice corner. I’m not a relationship expert, just a writer who writes about relationships. Feel free to add on your own opinion.
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April 29th, 2008 at 1:10 am - Edit
I love Ralph Tresvant!
Gwyneth
April 29th, 2008 at 8:46 am - Edit
Gwyneth and the song fit perfect for the situation
April 29th, 2008 at 4:49 pm - Edit
i agree with this post. i used to be the man that would rather “not say anything” when it came to things i didn’t feel comfortable talking about or just didn’t want to talk about. but now i truly communicate. even if i am the one wrong.
how did i finally get past my lack of communication? take a wild guess…
blogging. lol. it helped me to be able to get my thoughts and feelings across.
it’s crazy, aint it.
April 30th, 2008 at 3:43 am - Edit
As an x husband I can say that I learned communication is the key that opens the door to a healthy and happy relationship. As a man I understand that all women want a good man, one who communicates well, provides well and loves hard . I know a lot of brothers who are ready and willing to be that man but have women wouldn’t know a good man if he sat on her knee and called her mama! I need More this and I Need More seems to be their national anthem! If these women would look at what they’re doing to make their man less sesitive to their needs and correct that first- it could eliminate al ot of unneeded drama. Here’s my thouht, if you want your man to be moresesitive to your needs, be a little more sensitive to his! We have needs too you know! Lastly, no one wants to go to work and listen to a nagging boss or co-worker all day, so why would they want to come home to a nagging man\woman? It’s time out for 50/50- both the man and the woman have to give 100%
April 30th, 2008 at 10:16 am - Edit
Don, that’s a plus for blogging. It got you out of your shell.
Cedric, thanks for sharing. We women do have to remember you guys do have needs too. If we all brought 100 then relationships wouldn’t be so fragile.
May 14th, 2008 at 7:01 pm - Edit
Great post. Man I actually can’t comment on this post as what’s been said I agree with for the most part. But you went way back on that R. Tresvant vid. LOL