It’s Day 2 of music dedication week here on the blog. There’s so much music out there that I’ve decided to split it up into two parts. This week it’ll be all about us ladies and the next time I do a music dedication week, it’ll be all about the men. Highlighted today are five female groups from the 80s & 90s.

TLC

T-Boz, Left Eye and Chili were the group to beat back in the day…they were hip and they were trendsetters. Left-Eye is missed.

EnVogue

This was probably one of the best girl groups of the time.  When this group broke up it shocked everyone. I would love to see a reunion CD with all the original members.

Klymaxx

We all paused when we saw a group of women who not only sang but played all the instruments in the band. Whether they were singing “The Men All Pause” or my other favorite “Divas Need Love Too” Klymaxx is one of my top favorite groups from this time.

Xscape

These Jermaine Dupree proteges were hip and could sang their butts off.  This is another group I hate broke up. Tiny’s been in the news because of her famous rapper boyfriend TI and one of the other ladies has been doing well as a songwriter. This is one of my favorites-Am I Dreaming – a collaboration with the group Ol’ School

Mary Jane Girls 

I had to add this group because me and high school friends performed one of their songs in a talent show. I thought I was grown.

Honarable Mention – Total

Members want to go solo. You hear maybe one CD and then nothing from them or the rest of the group. That’s been the fate of quite a few of the groups out from this period.

Who are some of your favorite girl groups from the 80s and 90s?

Double Platinum

This week will be music dedication week on the blog. So drop on by and take a trip down memory lane. To start it off, I’m posting my theme song and a song by a lady who shares my first name.

Double Platinum By Shelia M. Goss

Dear Shelia,

I recently heard from an old flame.  We went out a few times and had a good time. He’s suggesting we give it another try, but I’m not so sure.  For me the chemistry is no longer there. He is really nice and I can tell that he’s changed so I don’t want to hurt his feelings. What should I do? 

Signed Confused

Dear Confused,

I can understand you not wanting to hurt someone’s feelings. If you have no intentions of getting back with your ex and he’s trying to rekindle old flames; it’s best to be blunt and honest. Otherwise you risk giving off mixed signals which could lead to more hurt feelings. Explain to your ex, you wish him nothing but the best; however you’ve moved on and suggest he does the same. Do it tactfully and hopefully you guys can continue to hold civil conversations. If he gets too emotional about it, you may have to cut all ties, more for your sake than his. My motto is “An Ex is an Ex for a Reason and shall remain an ex.”

But then again, it doesn’t mean things might not work out if you do decide to give him another try. Either way, honesty is the key. Be honest with yourself first and by all means be honest with him.

Thanks for reading today’s question at advice corner. I’m not a relationship expert, just a writer who writes about relationships. Feel free to add on your own opinion.