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Dating and the Job Interview
By Shelia M. Goss
Dating these days isn’t as simple as it used to be. Even when a friend or family member introduce you to a potential mate, you have to be selective and interview them. You need to know more about them than what kind of car they drive, cell phone number and email address.
Before getting seriously involved with someone there are things you need to know before letting them into your innercircle. Have you met any of his family or friends? How do they interact? What is his religious preference? What information is he volunteering? Most men live by the motto: ”don’t ask, don’t tell,” so get your list together and the next time you’re face to face, ask. Ask, not interrogate. Be prepared however to answer the same questions honestly. It’s only fair.
If there’s any questionable things, why not invest $29.95 and do a background check. You’re probably saying if I have to go through that much trouble, why bother. Wrong. Think about it. If you were hiring an employee you would do a background check; so why not check out the guy you’re willing to bring into your world. Whether you pay $29.95 or ask probing questions to your potential mate and those who know him, check him out before making a committment. Wouldn’t it be nice to have 3 references as required when applying for a job?
This will be the first Father’s Day that I have no one to celebrate the day for. I dedicate these songs in the memory of my dad, Lloyd Goss (1996) and grandfather, JC Hogan (2007):
Dance with My Father Again – Luther Vandross
It’s So Hard To Say Goodbye To Yesterday – Boyz II Men
Respect is very important to any relationship. If you’re with a man who doesn’t respect you, he will misuse you and might even abuse you. He won’t be able to show you compassion nor will he bother to try to understand you. A man who doesn’t respect you is selfish. So what must you do? You must respect yourself first and not allow anyone else to disrespect you. Why be with a man who outwardly shows via his actions (and sometimes verbally) that he has no respect for you? You can’t make anyone respect you but you sure can demand it. If the person refuses to give and show you the respect that you feel you deserve, then keep it moving.
On another note, it seems that the younger generation have a bad habit of disrespecting their elders. There used to be a time when a youngster wouldn’t dare talk back to any older person regardless if it was their parents or not. Now, if you say something to a child, he might try to beat you up (just check out youtube if you don’t believe me). What happened to this generation? We’re growing up a generation of kids who don’t have respect for themselves, thus they disrespect others including and not limited to their parents, teachers and other adults.
People in general need to respect each other’s differences. We are all unique. Time out for disrespecting someone just because their viewpoint is different.
Aretha Franklin said in her hit song “Respect” ‘find out what it means to me.’What does respect mean to you?
History was made this week. Sen. Barack Obama is the Democratic Party presidential choice for the party. He is the first African-American to be in the top spot and he has a serious chance of being our first African-American President.
Dating and the Job Interview
