I have several takes on this and comments for the above responders. As women, we have not been allowed to stand in the so called “traditional gender role” in society. Many women, as well as, men have yet to even see the “traditional gender roles” mimicked in their own households. So it makes it very difficult for many women to just assume the position of dependence on a man. Women have and continue to hold down their households - taking care of children, having careers, paying the bills, cooking, cleaning etc. Because of the dual roles many women have served we have evolved this “independent women” in the current day and age who accomplishes more - going to college, buying homes, raising children, taking sole care of their homes and inevitably providing more for themselves. As a result, we are labeled as “independent bitches” which I want to comment, is how I took the above comments from some of the responders. I believe the common ground for any two people to begin/continue a relationship should be based on what emotional support the two can provide to one another. Not, did I make more money than her so “I can feel like the man.” That “traditional gender role” went out the window when generations after generations of women raised children without the presents of a husband/father figure. In the final years of our lives, after all the new cars, the new houses, clothes, etc is conversation and emotional attachment NOT how much more you verses I make or physical things. Furthermore, a gold digger in my book is one who seeks men with money solely for personal gain. Independent women can provide for themselves…..remember that! Any woman, who is being honest with themselves love to be given nice things rather that nice thing be $1 or $1000. If an independent women is interested in a man that makes less than she why should she have to exude differently? In my opinion, many men that feel like they don’t have anything to offer but a higher pay is a man who should do some serious soul searching to find out exactly who he truly is and what he truly wants. Is it his pride or preference to make more than his women? Maybe all that is needed is for many men to swallow their pride and let go of the place traditionally, they haven’t been in for years. All a lot of us independent bitches want is love and good companionship not money; we can make that on our own! Love is shown by support, not tangible replaceable items or the dollar amount of your paycheck! Thanks for the opportunity to respond.

I have said on several occassions, just because I can do for myself doesnt mean it wouldnt be nice to have a man do for me. Why does being independent in a man’s eyes constitute not wanting to be wined and dined.