Why You Shouldn’t Get Your Honey Where You Make Your Money
Posted by: Shelia in Dating, Relationships, tags: 106 & Park, Rocsi
I was over on The Young, Black, & Famous website and reading about the incident with Rocsi & Terrence on BET’s 106 & Park. This post isn’t about the incident but more about whether you should play where you work.
I don’t know for sure, but from the times that I’ve watched 106 & Park, it seemed to me that those two had something going on outside of the show. It appeared as if they were dating, messing around or whatever you want to call it. It’s been written about before but since I don’t know either one of them personally, I can’t say whether or not it’s true. It just appears to be that way.
Let’s assume that it’s a fact that they are or were dating. It may explain Rocsi overreacting and forgetting she had a job to do (although Terrence was wrong for what he said). Her reaction is the number one reason why you shouldn’t get your honey where you make your money–if things don’t work out, things can get too emotional.
Other reasons why I don’t think you should get your honey where you make your money:
- If you have a disagreement, it may carry over into the work place. Tempers flair. People stare. Your work might become affected.
- If you break up, it may feel awkward working with them. Do you really want to hear about who he or she is dating now that you’ve broken up? How would you react if you caught him or her flirting with another co-worker? If the relationship didn’t end on good terms, why would you want to see that person every day?
- What if the ex is bona-fide crazy? With the way the economy is jobs are hard to come by so you might not be able to just quit your job because you don’t want to work with your ex.
I do know two couples that ended up getting married after meeting on the job so there are some pros; yet too many cons. Keep your honey and your money separate — makes for a more peaceful life.
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July 16th, 2008 at 9:33 am - Edit
Honey Hush! I have worked with those who were sharing honey, when it was good, it was good, but when things got sticky, everyone suffered!
Blessings,
angelia
July 16th, 2008 at 10:01 am - Edit
Most people can’t handle stress so they do bring problems into the workplace. And, you are right about the economy, you can’t afford to mess up home and work at the same time.
July 16th, 2008 at 10:41 am - Edit
When it comes to making that paper….you should try your best not to mix business with pleasure!!
July 16th, 2008 at 11:14 am - Edit
Angelia, Alesia, Meachy, as much as I’ve been tempted at one of my jobs where I was the only black female I could not cross the line. Too many other fishes in the sea than to take chances on messing up a work environment.
July 16th, 2008 at 11:23 am - Edit
I couldn’t agree more, but Terrence was really grilling her. I don’t know why he was all over her like that, and she was handling it pretty well until the end. I wish she could have finished the show, but something tell me they’ve been pushing her out for some time now. Anyway, don’t let no man get under your skin to the point you can’t do your job. Honestly, after this, what’s next for Rocsi.
July 16th, 2008 at 12:02 pm - Edit
Well, dang. As always, I’m out of the loop. But I do agree with as far as not dating at work. Separate is best. Less drama in the end.
July 16th, 2008 at 12:23 pm - Edit
I agree, keep the loving and the job apart if you can. If you can’t just know that one can ruin the other…
Gwyneth
July 16th, 2008 at 12:27 pm - Edit
You all made me think of something else–you shouldn’t be discussing your relationships (regardless if your mate works with you or not) on the job…having folks all in your personal business like that just isn’t cool…but that’s another post.
July 16th, 2008 at 1:46 pm - Edit
In my early twenties I dated someone that I worked with and we did everything together for a year. But, I went into the relationship knowing that it was just a temporary arrangement…hmmm remember I was in my early twenties….I just wanted to be footloose and fancy free…lol. But I did go on to date others that I worked with…but they were in different departments…and I even met my husband via work and we’ve known each other 20 years and been friends and lovers for 18 years.
July 16th, 2008 at 10:57 pm - Edit
Yasmin, cool. I’m a hopeful romantic, so its good to hear about people who have been married a long time.
July 17th, 2008 at 11:47 am - Edit
from the few times i have seen the new 106&park i thought that maybe they were messing around, but i wasn’t sure. i thought it was just TV. i am surpised they allowed their ‘disagreement’ to cause friction within the program. that’s shocking.
i agree @ saying no to workplace romance. i will NEVER do that again.
July 17th, 2008 at 12:30 pm - Edit
I think HIS reaction is why you should say no to workplace romance. I don’t think she was being sensitive…she removed herself from a situation where he was acting like a complete and utter ass.
Personally, I think he should have received some sort of penalty for harassing her and creating a hostile work environment. Even after she left, he wouldn’t stop belittling her.
July 17th, 2008 at 10:25 pm - Edit
Loving the renovations Shelia!