Best of the Best – Prenupts – For or Against?
Prenuptial agreements are not just for the rich. If you have property such as a home, possibility of inheriting property, own your own business, help put a spouse through school, or a spouse helps put you through school, etc. a prenupt might be something you would want to consider. A prenupt protects both parties involved.
Women these days are making just as much (if not more) money than men, so getting a prenupt before marriage isn’t just something to benefit the man anymore. Grant it, the mention of “prenupt” might make a man or woman run away. Especially if they feel that the mere idea of one is a sign that the relationship isn’t as solid as it should be or that the party requesting the other person to sign one doesn’t believe “in their love” enough. A prenupt isn’t personal, it’s business. It’s a way to protect yourself. In the ideal world, “Until death do us part” would be true 100 percent of the time, but unfortunately divorce does happen–especially if relationships are based on false pretenses.
Do you believe in prenupts? What if you are the one with the money or potential to make a lot of money? Should it be the deciding factor on whether or not you marry? What provisions would you put in your prenupt?
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Honestly I would now be realistic and get a pre-nup if I had major change. If she had it, and asked me to sign papers I wouldn’t.
Don, interesting. You’ll have her sign one, but you wouldn’t be willing to sign one. Is that fair?
Personally, depending on the situation, I have nothing against pre-nupts for either party. If either party has earned or inherited property, businesses, or other assets before the marriage, I see nothing wrong in either asking for a pre-nupt. Especially if there are children involved. If that was the situation and I was asked to sign one, I wouldn’t have an issue with it. If I had those things, I would ask for him to sign one.
If our status is about equal when we enter into marriage, then I see no purpose in a pre-nupt and probably would have an issue if it came up and was insisted upon.
I’ve heard the point about pre-nupts being a sign of non-trust. To me, with the high rate of divorce, it’s a sign of being logical. And if I love the person and I’m not marrying them for what they have, then it shouldn’t be an issue.
Cherlyn, I look at it as being logical too. Love can be blinding and if I marry a man, yes I trust him; however having been in relationships before I do know the person you’re with can change and that’s one thing the prenupt protects not just the person initiating the prenupt, but the one who is asked to sign it.
I dont know how I feel about this… part of me wans to stil believe in the fairy tale that marriage, when it happens for me will be forever… and part of me feels if you need to get a prenup that deep down inside you dont really believe that it will last forever. Having a man ask me for one would make me feel like he wasnt really serious about us. But on the other hand my mother has been married more than once so reality sets in for me but I still dont feel like I want to be in a situation where we sign one before getting married.
I agree with Eb, I think having one kind of makes it seem like you don’t believe this is the person to have and to hold FOREVER.
However, as a realist and a home owner, I would most certainly have one in place, and I wouldn’t mind signing one either.
I wouldn’t get a prenupt. I can’t explain it but I just wouldn’t.