Comments on: Less Than 30 & The Ex Factor

By: MsJayy

MsJayy — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 12:45:45 +0000

I’ve back-pedaled down that road a time or two. In most cases, it ended the second time around for the same reason it ended the first time. I’ve seen folks work it out though – BUT they were both different people when they got back together otherwise, they’d be doing the ‘repeat shuffle’ like most others who try to go back. With one exception, I’m not sure what made me want to even try again. Hell, I don’t even like reruns on TV! LOL

By: Blake

Blake — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 02:12:59 +0000

Sheila,

It’s so crazy that you wrote about this. I had an on-again-off-again relationship for the past year or so. I decided to do the one last chance weekend thing and that’s when it hit me. I wondered for the rest of the weekend (yes, it didn’t take the entire weekend to realize it) why I was there, and more importantly, why was he still here. Long story short, I couldn’t drop him off fast enough. Sometimes, we just need that one thing that let’s us know it’s over.

By: princessdominique

princessdominique — Sun, 24 Aug 2008 00:15:53 +0000

I’m all for the belief that an ex is an ex for a reason. I don’t backtrack. That goes for ex-friends too.

By: don

don — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 01:01:53 +0000

I forgot to tell you that I nominated your blog over @ black weblog.

By: don

don — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 01:01:10 +0000

I swear it appears that just about all women think alike – how many times have I heard the phrase ‘an ex is an ex for a reason’ come out the mouth of a woman? LOL.

With that said, of the women who do think alike, not all act out their thoughts because I’ve witnessed more than a few women jump back into a bad relationship, even after they should have known better.

So props to you Sheila, for saying ‘no more drama’ and meaning it. Enjoyed the read.

By: Shelia

Shelia — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 13:39:08 +0000

Michelle, your last line made me think of an old Jody Watley song – “I’m looking for a new love…”

By: Michelle

Michelle — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 00:50:38 +0000

It’s like a re-run. You know the ending… and if your forgot, trust me, before you get there, you will remember the ending, and as you said Shelia… he’s an ex for a reason and at the core of it all, those reasons still exist. If he was married… even if divorced now, he’s a cheater (he cheated while he was with you!), if he was a smoker, or a drinker, the residuals will still be there – either as a weakness or ill health…

When I take a shirt back to the store for an ill-fit, even if I lose weight I don’t go back and buy it again. Now I’ve kept one hoping for it to fit only to end up losing it or giving it away or just play old getting bored with it by the time I could actually fit it.

As you know Ms. Shelia… I have had an entire week spent with exes… I gots some baby’s daddy’s… I’m not shame… I’m just about 49 (8/25/08), that’s old stuff quit so bringing it up okaaayyy. (J/K) But on a serious note… not one of them finnnne ‘looking’ negros gave me the urge for an encore. Looks ain’t nothing… well, not enough.

Single and almost 49…looking for a NEW LOVE (okaaaay)
Ms. M.

By: Shelia

Shelia — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 00:39:06 +0000

Meachy sometimes you have to be be blunt. There’s no sense in playing with his feelings, so I’m glad you told him exactly how you felt.

Tzynya, old habits are hard to break. He apologized but he did mean what he said.

I’m not a cynic. Sometimes people do change and realize the error of their previous ways. Sometimes people can get past the PAST.

By: Tzynya

Tzynya — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 18:31:55 +0000

I have two exes who live in Texas…lol! Good post! I have gone back to 1 ex, and before long the same things that drove us apart the first time around, ripped at us the second time around. For me I knew it was over when he exclaimed, one day in err to something he *thought* I was guilty of doing, “I knew you would never change!” That was it for me. He apologized via text/cell/email but I realized he was right. We would never change.

By: Meachy

Meachy — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 13:31:09 +0000

Girl you must know what to write just last night a guy I used to deal with 2 years ago……just keep calling me trying to get back in my good graces…..and I just simply tell him….”I’M DONE” he keeps trying to plead his case that he’s so different and things will be different….and I keep telling him….I’m in love with me!!!! Your my past, a closed chapter!!! I told him things had to go the way it did to get me to this point…..I thank God for deliverance!!!