Comments on: What Do Men Really Want – Bad Girls

By: Shelia

Shelia — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 15:47:25 +0000

Drewzee, I might have to get you for my next panel (if you’re available). A lot of women stopped through but didn’t leave comments but they definately like reading what’s on the male mind.

By: drewzee

drewzee — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 01:59:45 +0000

What an interesting topic. No grown man wants the proverbial, “bad girl.” That’s just crazy. What man would want to worry about if his woman is playing footsies, either in the figurative or literal manner, with one of his boys? Hell no. When I say grown man, I am referring to a man who has experienced his fair share of experiences, if you get what I mean. After you have worn that “bad girl” out and realize she is about as good a complement to you as a Ralph Lauren Purple Label suit that is two sizes too big, the gig will be up. And that happens very early on for most men. So, the “bad girl’ has a use early on for less experienced men. Or men who like to live on the edge and wonder what their woman is doing anytime he is not actually in her person. (sorry to be so crass) A shame.

By: pasco

pasco — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 00:35:12 +0000

when i think of good in bad iam talking about sexual ability liking to take social risk. some one that decint and not hole back by what other people say is good or bad.

By: The Comeback Girl

The Comeback Girl — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 19:50:56 +0000

First of all Donna Summer looks BEAUTIFUL…this is a recent vid i think..she looks better with age. wow.

i think the bad girl mystique can be cultivated in a “good woman”..to me all it is a little edge..she can still be wifey material..more so even.

By: Shelia

Shelia — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 14:16:17 +0000

I forgot to add, I’m sure none of the men on the panel would complain about their women being respectable but showing them a different side when behind close doors–goes back to the cliche–”a man wants a woman who can handle herself in the boardroom and the bedroom.”

Now fellows correct me if I’m wrong.

By: Shelia

Shelia — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 14:14:46 +0000

@Persia – “I also think it’s in the context of the relationship.” I agree. With the right man, I’m sure any “good” girl can be the “bad girl” that the man wants her to be.

By: Persia Ellis

Persia Ellis — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 14:10:18 +0000

Hmm.. I can be that ‘bad girl’ and ‘good girl’.. Smiling but I also think it’s in the context of the relationship.

By: Shelia

Shelia — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 11:02:57 +0000

“I think why can’t she be blessed just like a so-called good girl”
@Mel – Good point. People can change.

“I never had any use for the Bad Girl other than Sex.”
@Temps – Overall this seems to be the consensus with men; although I do know some that have married “bad girls.”

By: temps

temps — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 03:00:29 +0000

At 32 I dont know any man thats ever had any real time with (including sex) with a women thats “bad”. And I mean-leaving the kids with anyone-class A felony on paper-bad. Yea they werent the most upstanding ladies but a-holes well at least we all kept that to THIER lives. And I sure as hell dont know any guy marrying one.

I think this is a thing with girls-young ladies-women. From an early age girls are in the face of the Boy they are told is “no good” and the mix messages from the women in her commnutiy and pop cult only increases their curiosity.

But I never had any use for the Bad Girl other than Sex. Thats it thats all-I would NEVER want to even think about marrying a Lil Kim…….eeewwww… I wouldnt want to be seen in the DAYTIME with her..hey you a freak and they come out at night-I’ll see you when I am stepping to the AM!

Bad Girls dont do to men what the Bad Boys does to women…I mean jail time-car co-sgined and then dude MIA yea I never heard (even off the web) of mutilple stories like this involving good guys and bad girls.

By: Mel

Mel — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 23:50:22 +0000

Thanks for the heads up Shelia – Personally. I don’t think it matters anymore. If a man wants to marry a so-called bad girl then I’m sure it will a blessed marriage as any other. I have a friend (extremely successful black man at the top of his game) who married who I believe to be a ‘bad girl’ and hell, I was so jealous that I could spit. However as I look back – I think why can’t she be blessed just like a so-called good girl. She really was keeping it real and in the end I think that’s what matter to my friend.