Welcome to DAY THREE of the special series – What Do Men Want?
Meet the panel:
Ralston, Age: 34, Occupation: Software Licensing Consultant
Tony, Age: 30′s, Occupation: Director of Operations for three mental health facilities
John, Age: 46, Occupation: Project Manager, Author
Dino, Occupation: Actor, Director
Luther, Age: 37, Occupation: Software Developer
Eathan from Idatewhite.com, Age: 39, Occupation: Sales/Business Owner
Eddie, Age: 44, Occupation: Salesman
SBM (aka SingleBlackMale.net), Age: 25, Occupation: Software Developer / IT Consultant
Today’s question: What would make a good woman more appealing to a man?
Ralston: Again, the Biblical cliche’ for this one is “A Proverbs 31 woman”. For me, a good woman is one who first and foremost knows who she is and loves herself dearly and completely. If those two are the essence of her foundation, then there’s no need to create a list/expound on my definition.
Tony: Like my last statement, “Good Woman” means something different to most men. To me a good woman is one that is honest, respects herself and others, business orientated, can handle her own financial affairs, loyal to the man she loves, not drama oriented, and someone who loves their loved ones.
John: See the first question
A woman I can call my own who will let me love her unconditionally and vice versa, she does the same. A woman who can be independent (if she must), but also recognize and realize a relationship is a union of two hearts acting and loving as one. A woman who knows the meaning of the word support and the phrase, I will always be there for you. A woman who is beyond the games in life and realize life is meant to be lived, enjoyed, cherished and loved.
Dino: A woman who really puts GOD first.Luther: See answer #1.
We are very simple creatures. Not really driven by emotions. A man is really easy to please. We do not want too much in relationships. By that I mean one that has too many requirements. We never really grow up. Give us some room to go and play sometimes. Good sex, a meal and an occasional Poker night with the boys makes me happy. A woman that has goals in life; a woman that looks through godly eyes; not seeing all the bad habits of her man, but looks to enhance the good attributes of her man.
Eathan: Now-a-days…if she can cook. I hear that from alot of my friends…women don’t cook or think much about the normal household stuff.
Eddie: A good woman needs to define what she wants and make sure she treats a man like she would like to be treated. She should be honest, forth right and confident in herself.SBM: This is the million dollar question but there is no blanket answer. Every guy values things differently. For a “soul searching” individual like myself whose still not sure what I want from my future wife; for me, the one thing that no doubt will make a good woman more appealing … great head (yes … I said it).
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Great responses from the men. That’s keeping it real!
I think all these are typical answers but at the end of the day…..most men go for the exact opposite of a good woman!!!!
I kind of agree with Meachy.
There isn’t a blanket answer (as SBM stated) for this question. The same cam be said if you ask a woman what constitutes a good man. You’ll get several different answers. Also it depends on where you are in your life at the time.
Oh and LOL @ the “head” comment.
Thanks for posting this series Sheila.
I totally agree with the panelist who said that a relationshiop is a union of two hearts that come together to act as one. At the end of the day, no matter who we are, thats what it comes down to.
A good relationship isn’t a perfect one, but it is one thats perfect for the two hearts in it. So I appreciate that panelist for pointing out what a real relationship truly is.
I could go on and on, but I’ll stop here. But thanks soo much for your candor gentlemen and above all your honesty.
I have known men that say they want a good woman, but once they get her, she’s treated like anything but….
And like Jay-Z said in song cry, “once a good girl is gone bad, she’s gone forever….”
Well, maybe not forever, but that girl may just be jaded for a while and the whole love “innocense” is lost.
What I want, is for men to be totally honest with themselves and good women. Thanks SBM for being honest in your comment. IF you are not ready, please leave the good women alone.
***Steps of soapbox *****
Ok Nicki!!
Digging all responses especially Eddie’s Response!!
Well it looks like most of the women are not feeling the answers of the brothers so lets get the REAL TALK going…What makes a woman appealing to a man?
Everyone wants someone honest, nice looking, supportive, yada yada but the bottom line for love to work in any relationship is that we all come to the same definition of what LOVE is….dont get me wrong love can be expressed in many different ways, However it can only be defined one way and that is SELFLESSNESS….not selfishness…love is not about 50/50 but 100/100 so that their is nothing missing, nothing lacking…love is not about convenience but sacrifice…it is bittersweet you cant have one without the other….
So that being said…what makes a woman appealing to me….these qualities…the qualities i am willing to give as well:) CAN YOU MEET THE QUALIFICATIONS….
My book gets deeper with it….check it out:) POWERINTHEPIN.COM
Jason do you have a myspace page…..
Nicki Sunshine I agree with you 100%!!!!
@SBM: Great head? How do you figure a woman is gonna know what it takes to give great head and still qualify for your Magic Ratio?
lol.. I have to agree with ya on that one Moody. It takes practice to know what good head is when you are getting it..and to know how to GIVE it also. Sorta screws the magic ratio.. Could be some slow learners out there..lol
I also agree with Nicki Sunshine too. Great comment.
yes i do have a myspace page…i am on sheila’s top page you will see the book as my profile….
Who are you people ? Good head ? I see why yall talking about a man instead of having one. Long lasting relationships marriage( The God preferred relationship) can’t be even 30% based on anything physical. Loving someone is not an emotion it is a choice. The physical is in turn is enhanced because your are totally committed to the person you chose and all others are blocked from you.
I think what a man really wants is a good woman. What I mean by that is a woman who wont loose her own individuallity and lives her life through him. He want a woman who will not fret when he hangs with his friends or just wants his own time to himself, after all I like time to myself.He wants a woman who wont hunt him down like a wild animal and let him love her not try to make him love her. He wants a partner in life his best friend. And of course he really would like a great meal after work and he wants to make that great meal for her as well.
i think its stupid