Song of the Day – Text Messages by Raheem Devaughn
Here’s a post I wrote last year about texting.
To Text or Not?
Why do guys you just meet feel that its okay to send a text message before picking up the phone to call? I’m all high tech and in fact will be getting my new phone today that has word, excel and powerpoint on it, but I’m old school when it comes to dating. Dudes pick up the phone and call a woman unless she lets you know that texting is okay.
1. Let your first communication be with a phone call.
2. Sending a quick text during the course of the day because you’re at work to say you were thinking about them, enjoyed your date–okay; but setting up a first date via text is not okay.
3. If you’re at home, why are you texting? Pick up the phone. Call the person. Are you hiding something and that’s why you can’t talk?
Don’t get me wrong. I don’t have a problem with texting but I don’t like for it to be the main form of communication.
How do you feel about texting?
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I agree with your statement. Texting should really be limited to times when a person isn’t able to converse over the phone. In fact after a couple of text messages, I stop. I can’t carry on a conversation while texting as it’s boring, time consuming [even with predictive text] and a big turn off when it comes to dating.
I think a text to say when is a good time to talk is okay. But beyond that, first conversation should definitely be over the phone. Texting is a lot like emails and can be easily misinterpreted. Plus, you don’t know if a person has texting capabilities or what they’re plans are. It can turn into a very expensive proposition.
Now, if you have someone texting you and that’s not your preferred mode of communication, you need to speak up right away and let it be known. There can’t be change if you don’t know something needs to be changed. But if you say something and they don’t get the message, end the conversation immediately. It’s a sure sign of things to come.
I think texting should be for after one has established a friendship/connection/etc., in a dating situation. It would seem strange to receive a first text before a first call or first date.
Donna D is absolutely right since text messages can be misconstrued or misunderstood or even misinterpreted. I usually will call the person to make sure I got the message right. But sometimes, if you are in a class or library, where you cannot have your cell phone on and can review the text message instead.
What is even funnier, is that my sister will call you downstairs while you are upstairs. Why could she not come up the stairs to talk to me? I think overall we have become lazier with technology!
Kd, I’m with you. Unless it’s a quick text message–in a meeting, will call you later or something like–thinking of you, will call you when I get off type message–I don’t like guys texting me.
Donna D, I try to let that be known.
Monica, I think that’s what irks me is some guys will make their first initial communication be with a text message. I guess I’m old fashion.
Adrienna, lol. Yes technology has made us lazier.