Author Shelia M Goss » Dating

The Don’ts of Dating

Shelia — Thu, 21 Oct 2010 13:13:08 +0000

Here’s an excerpt from my post on Dallas Examiners.

Do you get nervous before a first date? Dating should be fun and when you meet a person you’re really interested in, you really want things to go perfect. Here are a few things not to do on a first date:

Don’t talk about your Ex. Unless, the other person asks you about your ex, do not spend the entire date talking about problems you and your ex encountered.
Don’t do all of the talking. How many times have you been out with someone and they go on and on about themselves and never let you get a word in edge wise. Give the other person time to talk. Listening is just as important as talking.

To read the rest, go to: http://www.examiner.com/romance-in-dallas/things-not-to-do-on-a-first-date

The Dating Application

Shelia — Wed, 12 May 2010 04:01:11 +0000

What if we treated dating like we do a job or an interview? Companies pre-screen applicants before deciding to give them an interview. Why don’t we pre-screen guys more before deciding to give them our hearts? For example:

Applicants fill out applications (ask potential date questions).
Applicant gets an interview (go out on date to learn even more).
Interviewer takes notes (evaluates all information & decide if you want to continue dating).
Interviewer does a background check (background check could be asking friends/relatives/or official criminal background check)

THE DATING APPLICATION (author unknown)

In compliance with applicable laws, this woman typically does not discriminate because of age, sex, race, color, religion, national origin, veteran status or disability. But because I am a woman, I can do whatever I want to do. Instructions: Please print. Be sure to answer all questions. If a question does not apply to you, answer with “no” or “not applicable”. Do not substitute any bull for the information requested. Please attach 3 references. Do not use family members, homeboys or cut buddies that you claim you are just friends with. We would prefer if you use past girlfriends, coworkers, or someone that really does not give a flip about this one way or the other and will not lie for you.

Note: I do offer the opportunity for advancement. Upon outstanding behavior, you may be promoted to boyfriend, fiancé, or even husband if you are lucky.

PERSONAL INFORMATION

Last name First Middle						Social Security Number
Present Address (please attach a current bill for verification. Photocopies not accepted)							How long?
City State Zip							Verified? Yes No
Telephone Number and area code Home ( ) Work ( )					Person to notify in case I have to cut you Name Phone ( )
Position Desired					Hours available
Gainfully employed? Yes No		If yes, where? If no, Kick Rocks and your application will be permanently destroyed.
Adequate transportation? Yes No				If no, Kick Rocks and your application will be permanently destroyed.
Currently holding another position as someone’s husband/boyfriend/Boo? Yes No	If yes, Kick Rocks and your application will be permanently destroyed.
Have been properly screened for STD’s? Yes No	Dates and what medical facility? Also, please provide proof.
Ever engaged in any intimate activity with a male that should be strictly between a male and female? Yes No	If yes, Kick Rocks and your application will be permanently destroyed.
Married? Yes No	If yes, Kick Rocks and your application will be permanently destroyed. Just so you know, your wife will be contacted at the phone number or address you have listed above. Sorry bastard!!
Baby Mama Drama? Yes No	If yes, please explain
Bad Credit? Yes No	If yes, please explain
Have you ever been convicted of a felony? Yes No	If yes, please explain (anything other than possession of marijuana or 1 DUI, Kick Rocks and your application will be permanently destroyed.)
Have you ever been terminated from or asked to resign from a previous relationship? Yes No			If yes, Please explain
Circle anything that applies God fearing Respectable Believes chivalry is dead can handle minor housekeeping duties phone rings all time of night lies uncontrollably effective listener goal oriented handsome nice dresser can pick up the tab without having to file bankruptcy don’t have a girlfriend good with my hands trustworthy kind loving willing to slide a sister some change to help her out if need be

EDUCATION

Education	Name and location of institution	Grade Average	Did you Graduate?	If you graduated, what was your Degree and major
High school and/or G.E.D.			Yes No
College			Yes No
College			Yes No
Graduate School			Yes No
Other institutions attended			Yes No

ADDITIONAL INFORMATION

Use this space to list any reasons why you, above all others, should be selected as my man.

_________________________________________________________________________________________________________

APPLICANT’S STATEMENT

I certify that the information contained in this application is correct and understand that falsification of this information is grounds for dismissal. I authorize this woman to conduct an investigation of my background for the purpose of confirming the information contained on my application and/or obtaining other information which may be material to my qualifications for her man. I authorize any individuals or entities contacted during this investigation to give you any and all pertinent information they may have, personal or otherwise, and release all parties from any and all liabilities, claims or law suits in regard to the information obtained.

I certify that I have read, understand and agree with the above.

__________________________________________________________________________________________

Applicant’s Signature Date

Contest & Hollywood Deception eMag Issue #2

Shelia — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 00:39:00 +0000

Click on the image below to open issue two of the online magazine. At the end of some of the articles, there are questions. Be sure to leave your comments about the articles back on this blog post and be automatically entered in the three March contests. The more comments you have on the posts with “contest” in the blog title, the better chances you have of winning.

The 5 B’s

Shelia — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 04:02:48 +0000

Back in the day, it was every little girls wish to meet her fairy tale prince charming. As we grow older, the realization of that NOT happening can hit harder than a ton of bricks. Although I’ve let go of believing in the fairy tale prince, I do think regardless of your age, your “Mister Right” is out there. No, he won’t be like the ones you read about in my books, but he does exist. Here are some things you can do that will make you feel like the superstar that you are. I like to call them the 5 B’s:

Be Prettty. I don’t care if you’re the CEO of your own company or a young lady working behind the counter at McDonald’s, all women want to feel pretty. We want the man of our desires to find us attractive. Being pretty doesn’t have to cost you. Try to be the best “you” by making sure when you leave the house your hair and clothes are together. If you’re not into wearing make-up, try Shock-o-late Lip Glass by M.A.C. or Wetslicks Sugar Maple Lip Gloss by Cover Girl. Accessorize: earrings, a belt, a scarf, etc can bring a dull outfit to life. Pretty is a state of mind—let it shine through from the inside–out.
Be Friendly. Nothing says “I’m approachable” like a big ol’ beautiful smile. If you’re in the store and pass by a man you find attractive, it doesn’t hurt to speak first. Don’t walk around frowning. Nobody wants to be around a sourpuss. A friendly gesture might be all it takes for your prince charming to give you a second look.
Be Fresh. Have you ever been somewhere and ran across a man where he smelled so good, you just had to know what he was wearing? Well the same works for women when it comes to attracting men. There’s nothing like wearing perfume that will get any stranger to asking—“what are you wearing?” Every body is different, so you may have to experiment until you find the right fragrance that mixes with your body chemistry. I will let you in on a little secret: Issey Miyake perfume is like an aphrodisiac. When I’m feeling flirty, I’ll wear it and I get results no matter where I am. It works at the post office, at the store, etc. Smelling good is a good first impression and opens the door for communication. Find a fragrance that works for you and let the conversations begin.
Be Cool. Never let them see you sweat. Life comes with its challenges, but there’s no need to have an attitude about it. Also when you meet someone who is in your eyes all that and a box of shoes, don’t sweat him. Let him come to you. If you’ve shown him that you’re approachable, then, relax and be cool. He’s the hunter; let him hunt.
Be Yourself. Know yourself. Know your limitations. Know what you’re looking for in a man. Don’t settle for less. You deserve the best and contrary to statistics, the best is out there. Be your best and expect the best in return.

Pre-Screening Dates One Application at a Time

Shelia — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 05:39:47 +0000

I’m not sure if you all remember my post – Dating & the Job Interview. Here’s a short excerpt from it:

Dating these days isn’t as simple as it used to be. Even when a friend or family member introduce you to a potential mate, you have to be selective and interview them. You need to know more about them than what kind of car they drive, cell phone number and email address.

Before getting seriously involved with someone there are things you need to know before letting them into your innercircle. Have you met any of his family or friends? How do they interact? What is his religious preference? What information is he volunteering? Most men live by the motto: ”don’t ask, don’t tell,” so get your list together and the next time you’re face to face, ask. Ask, not interrogate. Be prepared however to answer the same questions honestly. It’s only fair.

What would happen if guys had to fill out an application before we agreed to date them? I came across this application on Black Femme Fatale’s blog one day:

Instructions: Please print. Be sure to answer all questions. If a question does not apply to you, answer with “no” or “not applicable”. Do not substitute any bullshit for the information requested. Please attach 3 references. Do not use family members, homeboys or cut buddies that you claim you are just friends with. We would prefer if you use past girlfriends, coworkers, or someone that really does not give a flip about this one way or the other and will not lie for you.

Note: I do offer the opportunity for advancement. Upon outstanding behavior, you may be promoted to boyfriend, fiancé, or even husband if you are lucky.

PERSONAL INFORMATION

Last name First Middle						Social Security Number
Present Address (please attach a current bill for verification. Photocopies not accepted)							How long?
City State Zip							Verified? Yes No
Telephone Number and area code Home ( ) Work ( )					Person to notify in case I have to cut you Name Phone ( )
Position Desired					Hours available
Gainfully employed? Yes No		If yes, where? If no, Kick Rocks and your application will be permanently destroyed.
Adequate transportation? Yes No				If no, Kick Rocks and your application will be permanently destroyed.
Currently holding another position as Winter Boo? Yes No	If yes, Kick Rocks and your application will be permanently destroyed.
Have been properly screened for STD’s? Yes No	Dates and what medical facility? Also, please provide proof.
Ever engaged in any intimate activity with a male that should be strictly between a male and female? Yes No	If yes, Kick Rocks and your application will be permanently destroyed.
Married? Yes No	If yes, Kick Rocks and your application will be permanently destroyed. Just so you know, your wife will be contacted at the phone number or address you have listed above. Sorry bastard!!
Baby Mama Drama? Yes No	If yes, please explain
Bad Credit? Yes No	If yes, please explain
Have you ever been convicted of a felony? Yes No	If yes, please explain (anything other than possession of marijuana or 1 DUI, Kick Rocks and your application will be permanently destroyed.)
Have you ever been terminated from or asked to resign from a previous Winter Boo position? Yes No			If yes, Please explain
Check anything that applies God fearing Respectable Believes chivalry is dead can handle minor housekeeping duties phone rings all time of night lies uncontrollably effective listener goal oriented handsome nice dresser can pick up the tab without having to file bankruptcy don’t have a girlfriend good with my hands trustworthy kind loving willing to slide a sister some change to help her out if need be

EDUCATION

Education	Name and location of institution	Grade Average	Did you Graduate?	If you graduated, what was your Degree and major
High school and/or G.E.D.			Yes No
College			Yes No
College			Yes No
Graduate School			Yes No
Other institutions attended			Yes No

ADDITIONAL INFORMATION

Use this space to list any reasons why you, above all others, should be selected as Winter Boo.

_________________________________________________________________________________________________________

APPLICANT’S STATEMENT

I certify that the information contained in this application is correct and understand that falsification of this information is grounds for dismissal. I authorize this woman to conduct an investigation of my background for the purpose of confirming the information contained on my application and/or obtaining other information which may be material to my qualifications for Winter Boo. I authorize any individuals or entities contacted during this investigation to give you any and all pertinent information they may have, personal or otherwise, and release all parties from any and all liabilities, claims or law suits in regard to the information obtained.

I certify that I have read, understand and agree with the above.

__________________________________________________________________________________________

Applicant’s Signature Date

Question: If you’re single or were single, what kind of probing questions would you ask?

Ladies where are the single men

Shelia — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 11:43:49 +0000

Where are the single men

Single women everywhere are wondering where are the single men. One place they are not is under your couch. So what is a single woman to do? Well, here is one tip from a romance author’s post called the 5 B’s: Be Friendly. Nothing says…

To read the rest of this article, please click on the link below:

http://www.examiner.com/x-28527-Dallas-Romance-Examiner~y2009m11d10-Where-are-the-single-men?cid=email-this-article

Are You or Someone You Know Dating the Wrong Type

Shelia — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 22:31:24 +0000

How many times have you dated someone because you considered them to be “your type” based on preconceived notions? Sometimes people get involved with “their type” and then the relationship doesn’t work. To read the rest, go to: http://www.examiner.com/x-28527-Dallas-Romance-Examiner~y2009m11d5-Is-He-or-She-my-type

P.S. – Monday I’ll be posting some new contests so be sure to check back.

Pros and Cons to Online Dating

Shelia — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 13:48:08 +0000

Photo Credit – Getty Images

The internet has become the new way to meet people; whether looking for a casual or long-term relationship. Although dating is dating, virtual dating adds an extra element. There are pros and cons to virtual dating. Pro – You get to learn a few…

To read the rest of this article, please click on the link below:

http://www.examiner.com/x-28527-Dallas-Romance-Examiner~y2009m11d3-Pros-and-cons-of-virtual-dating?cid=email-this-article

Romance Tips

Shelia — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 14:06:35 +0000

I’m excited to announce that I am the new Dallas Romance writer on the website Examiner.com. I need your help to be a success at it. On the days I’ll be writing over there, I’ll post a snippet here to alert you to that day’s topic and you can just click on the link.

If you’re not subscribed to my personal mailing list, there is an option on Examiner.com where you can subscribe directly there for updates.

Photographer: Chris Sharp

Check out the article I posted today: Six ways to add the spark back into your relationship

Leave your comments there or here. What other tips would you add?

Body Language Decoder

Shelia — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 04:01:41 +0000

I came across this article on Cosmopolitan.com:

Body Language Decoder

Whether you’ve just met your man or are in a long term relationship, this body language guide deciphers the meanings behind his actions. To read more, click here.