Mary J Blige (w/Drake) video “Mr. Wrong.”

SURVIVING MR. WRONG
By Shelia M Goss

How many times have you heard one of your girlfriends complain about the man they are with consistently? In your mind, you’re probably thinking, “why don’t you just leave him alone?” It’s easier said, than done.

Are we a glutton for punishment? Why do we continue in a relationship with a man that is apparently “not the one?” Once you realize there is life beyond a dead-end relationship, then you can take steps to resolve the issue.

Here are five sure ways to Surviving Mr. Wrong.

1. To thine self be true.
Be honest with yourself. Ask yourself why are you staying when you should be leaving. Are you afraid to be alone? Do you think you won’t survive without a man in your life? It’s time to sit back and re-evaluate your life. Find out why are you so dependent on someone who may not have your best interest at heart. Only you can make the decision to leave and start anew.

2. Laughter is fuel for the soul.
Life is serious; however find time to enjoy life. Don’t let being with someone who is wrong for you rob you of your joy. When was the last time you laughed? I mean a real laugh that made your head hurt. Grant it, starting over can be hard, but it can also be rewarding. Get back in tune to what makes you happy. If all else fails, make a point of watching comedies and bring a little laughter into your life until having a smile on your face is an every day thing.

3. Surround yourself with positive people.
Now this may be harder than you think. The saying “misery loves company” is so true. Some people close to you might not agree with your actions. Those are the ones you will need to keep at arms lengths as you go through your transition. Take an active role on having a positive attitude. Read and study your bible. Find positive affirmations and read them daily. Post them on your mirror in the bathroom, on your refrigerator, whatever you have to do to keep yourself in a positive frame of mind. Sign up for positive affirmations via email if you have internet access. For example, Jewel Diamond Taylor sends out daily affirmations via email.

4. Pamper yourself.
If there ever was a time for you to pamper yourself, NOW is the time. If you’re not already doing so and can afford it, treat yourself to a manicure and pedicure. In fact, why not go way out and treat yourself to a day at the spa. Get in tune with what your body and spirit needs. If you’re on a budget, there are plenty of things you can do for yourself at home. Take long bubble baths, light those candles and treat yourself to a candlelight dinner, Read the book you’ve been meaning to read. Pull out your favorite CDs and sing along. You’ll be amazed at how soothing music can be to the soul.

5. Don’t be a hermit.
You may feel like locking yourself in your room, but now is not the time to go into hiding. Yes. You need private time to access the situation and get back on track, but do not allow this period to deprive you of mixing and mingling with others. It goes back to surrounding yourself with positive people. Visit a friend or relative that you haven’t seen in awhile. Not saying you have to be a social butterfly, but why not open up your horizons and meet new people.

Here’s one positive affirmation to start you off on your journey of surviving Mr. Wrong:

I survived MR WRONG…anything else has to be a step towards making my life right.

 Parris in my book V.I.P. survived her Mr. Wrong. Find out how in V.I.P.

About V.I.P.: When fans of R & B Diva Parris start dissing her online, Parris knows she has to do something to revive her declining music career. She needs a hit song and fast. CJ “The Hitmaker” is a super producer looking to expand his portfolio. When these two meet, sparks fly, but trouble awaits between the pages. Being V.I.P. comes with a whole lot of drama from groupies and people from their past. Will Parris and CJ be able to mix business with pleasure without getting caught up in a media frenzy? Find out in V.I.P.

V.I.P. is available for Kindle, Nook, and your PC.

Here’s what’s on my shelf:

Diary of a Stalker by Electa Rome Parks

3 Word Review: rapid, psycho, captivating

About Diary of a Stalker:

Never judge a book by its cover. . .

Xavier Preston is tall, dark, and handsome, and the problem is that he knows it. He’s a bestselling author who is accustomed to adoring female fans, both young and old, flirting with him, throwing themselves shamelessly at him, and trying to get between more than the covers of his novels. He has always been more than willing to accommodate their needs and desires; however, his womanizing days have finally ended. He’s engaged to a beautiful woman, Kendall, and he’s decided to walk the straight and narrow. Or has he?

From outside appearances, the very stunning Pilar has it all: a great career, a beautiful home, and a trust fund that keeps her financially secure; however, looks can be deceiving. All that glitters isn’t necessarily gold. Pilar is searching for her perfect soulmate, and she thinks she has found him in Xavier. She believes in going after what she wants with a vengeance . . . and she wants Xavier. That is not negotiable. She will have him, even if it kills him.

When Xavier meets his fanatical fan, Pilar, he gets much more than he bargained for. What starts out as an erotic one-night stand quickly spirals out of control into a dangerous game of obsession and pain with both parties playing to win.

Think you know what goes on behind the literary scene? Think again.

The Perfect Seduction by Carmen Green

3 Word Review: timid, guardian, passionate

About The Perfect Seduction:

Loren Smith’s new career as a pastry chef is finally bringing the former model out of her shell. But when a fire forces her to move in with her best friend, she doesn’t expect to be living under the same roof as sinfully seductive Robinson Hood! And soon the sexy undercover investigator makes her his personal mission.

Rob finds Loren as fragile and irresistible as the airy confections she whips up–and he isn’t about to let her go back into retreat mode. The widowed P.I. wants her to know only his sensual touch. But first Rob has to earn her trust. Which means taking it slow and hot until he has the wary beauty right where he wants her–in his arms, in his bed… and in his heart.

Mary J Blige – Stronger with Each Tear available now.

3 Word Review: Empowering, Real, Soulful

To order your copy, CLICK HERE.

There’s a song out there to fit almost every occasion.

All Cried Out – Lisa Lisa & Cult Jam featuring Full Force

Is This the End – New Edition

Another Sad Love Song – Toni Braxton

End of the Road – Boyz II Men

Not Gonna Cry – Mary J Blige

Can you think of any other break up songs?